Self-Awareness & Inner Work Flashcards

In a heated moment, a trainer silently tells himself, 'Stop. Breathe. What am I feeling and needing?' This is an example of:

Answer: Self-empathy in real time

Pausing to connect with your own feelings and needs in the moment is real-time self-empathy.

According to NVC, what usually lies beneath guilt?

Answer: A value or need of ours that our action didn't honor

Guilt often points to a value or need we care about that our behavior didn't honor; mourning it turns guilt into learning.

What NVC term describes being connected and attentive to what is alive in yourself and others in the present moment?

Answer: Presence

Presence means full attention to what is alive right now, which is at the center of empathy and self-empathy.

A trainer feels resentment after saying 'yes' to extra unpaid sessions. What inner insight fits NVC?

Answer: Saying yes out of obligation may have ignored her own needs, which led to resentment

Giving out of duty rather than willingness often leads to resentment, which points to unmet needs of our own.

Why is ongoing self-empathy important for certified NVC trainers?

Answer: It helps them stay connected and offer empathy without burning out

Regular self-empathy supports trainers' wellbeing and their ability to stay present with others.

Which inner statement turns a self-criticism into an NVC-style 'inner educator' message?

Answer: 'I'm sad I spoke over her; I want to contribute to everyone being heard.'

The inner educator names feelings and needs instead of attacking or defending.

When a participant's comment triggers a strong reaction, what does NVC say is the 'trigger' telling the trainer?

Answer: Something about the trainer's own needs or history wants attention

Triggers point to our own unmet needs or past pain, which makes them chances for inner work.