Principles & Process Application Flashcards

Which statement uses language that denies choice, according to NVC?

Answer: I have to grade these papers.

"Have to" obscures personal choice and responsibility, which NVC invites us to reclaim.

NVC suggests translating 'have to' into which phrase?

Answer: "I choose to because I want..."

Rewording to "I choose to... because I want..." connects the action to the need it serves.

In NVC, what three components are included in expressing gratitude?

Answer: The action, the feeling, and the need met

NVC appreciation names the specific action, the feeling it brought, and the need it met.

Why does NVC caution against praise such as "Good job, you're so smart"?

Answer: It is a positive judgment that can be used to manipulate behavior and lacks information about the speaker's needs.

NVC views praise as a static evaluation and favors appreciation that reveals how one's life was enriched.

A group member keeps telling a long story. Using NVC, what is the most constructive interruption?

Answer: "Excuse me, I'm losing connection; would you be willing to tell me what you'd like us to understand?"

NVC encourages honest, empathic interruption that serves connection for both speaker and listener.

When someone says "no" to our request, NVC encourages us to:

Answer: Hear the needs behind their no that they are saying yes to

Every "no" is a "yes" to some other need, and hearing it maintains connection.

Which is the best example of self-empathy in NVC?

Answer: Silently noticing "I'm feeling anxious because I need predictability"

Self-empathy means giving ourselves empathic attention to our own feelings and needs.