Principles & Process Application Flashcards

In NVC, what is identified as the cause of our feelings?

Answer: Our met or unmet needs

NVC holds that others' actions are a stimulus, but the cause of feelings is whether our needs are met or unmet.

Marshall Rosenberg described a four-step process for fully expressing anger. What is the first step?

Answer: Stop and breathe

The process begins with stopping and breathing, then identifying judgmental thoughts, connecting with needs, and expressing feelings and needs.

How does NVC view anger in relation to needs?

Answer: As a signal that we are thinking in terms of what others should or shouldn't do

Anger is seen as an alarm pointing to "should" thinking that disconnects us from our unmet needs.

A colleague snaps, "You never listen!" What is the most NVC-consistent first response?

Answer: "Are you frustrated because you want to be heard about this?"

Hearing the feelings and needs behind the criticism, rather than defending, opens connection.

In NVC, which of the following is the protective use of force intended to do?

Answer: Prevent harm or injustice without blame or intent to make someone suffer

Protective force aims to protect life or rights, unlike punitive force, which aims to make someone suffer.

Which of these best illustrates 'mourning' in NVC after a choice we regret?

Answer: Connecting with the feelings and unmet needs related to the action

NVC mourning means connecting with the unmet needs our action failed to meet, without self-blame.

After mourning a regretted action, what does NVC suggest exploring next?

Answer: Which needs we were trying to meet when we made that choice

Self-forgiveness in NVC involves connecting with the needs we were trying to meet when we chose the action.