NVC Core Principles & Fundamentals 4

Question 1

What separates NVC's protective use of force from punitive force?

Accepted Answer

Protective force is meant to prevent harm, not to make someone suffer or repent

Answer

Protective force comes from an intention to keep life or well-being safe, not to judge or punish.

Question 2

Which three parts make up an expression of gratitude in NVC?

Accepted Answer

The action that helped, the need it met, and the feeling it brought

Answer

NVC appreciation names the specific action, the needs it met, and the pleasant feelings that resulted.

Question 3

Someone says, "I feel that you don't care about me." What does the phrase "feel that" usually signal in NVC?

Accepted Answer

A thought or interpretation, not a feeling

Answer

When "feel" is followed by "that," "like," or "you," a thought is usually being expressed instead of an emotion.

Question 4

What is the main purpose of the NVC exercise of turning "I have to" into "I choose to... because I want..."?

Accepted Answer

To reclaim choice by connecting actions to the needs they serve

Answer

The exercise replaces a sense of obligation with awareness of choice and the needs behind each action.

Question 5

Rosenberg suggested two questions that show the limits of punishment. Which pair is correct?

Accepted Answer

What do I want this person to do? What do I want their reasons for doing it to be?

Answer

Asking about the person's reasons shows that punishment may change behavior but rarely creates the motivation we want.

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