Core Principles & Fundamentals Flashcards

Which of the following is a universal need rather than a strategy?

Answer: Autonomy

Needs are universal and not tied to a specific person, action, or time, while strategies are.

Per Rosenberg, which response is most likely to block empathy when someone shares their pain?

Answer: Offering advice, such as "I think you should..."

Rosenberg listed advising and fixing among the habits that pull us out of presence with the speaker.

In NVC teaching, why was the giraffe chosen to symbolize compassionate communication?

Answer: It is the land animal with the largest heart

Rosenberg chose the giraffe because it has the largest heart of any land animal and its height gives it a wide view.

In Rosenberg's three stages of moving from emotional slavery to emotional liberation, which stage involves feeling angry and refusing to be responsible for others' feelings?

Answer: The obnoxious stage

In the "obnoxious" stage, people reject responsibility for others' feelings but haven't yet learned to care about them without fear or guilt.

In NVC, what does "mourning" a past action refer to?

Answer: Fully connecting with the unmet needs our action didn't serve, without blaming ourselves

NVC mourning means feeling the sorrow of unmet needs, which helps us learn instead of falling into guilt or shame.

"Would you be willing to tell me what you heard me say?" is an example of which kind of request?

Answer: A connection request

Connection requests ask for reflection or for the listener's feelings, which helps confirm understanding before asking for action.

According to NVC, what is the root cause of anger?

Answer: Our own thinking about what others should or shouldn't do

Rosenberg taught that others' actions are only the stimulus, and judgmental "should" thinking is what produces anger.