Divorce Signs Of Divorce 5 — Questions and Answers
Question 1: When couples in troubled marriages do seek help, which factor most predicts whether therapy will succeed?
- The number of sessions attended
- Whether both spouses are willing to change and take responsibility (Correct answer)
- The cost of the therapist
- Whether the therapist specializes in a particular technique
Correct answer: Whether both spouses are willing to change and take responsibility
Both spouses must be genuinely willing to change behaviors and take accountability; one-sided effort in couples therapy rarely reverses marital breakdown.
Question 2: A wife notices her husband has stopped mentioning her to friends and family, even in passing. What might this indicate?
- Respect for her privacy
- He is mentally separating from the marriage (Correct answer)
- He has a more reserved personality
- He values compartmentalizing work and personal life
Correct answer: He is mentally separating from the marriage
When a spouse stops including you in conversations about their life, it often reflects a mental disengagement from the marriage itself.
Question 3: Which scenario best illustrates the concept of 'parallel lives' as a sign of marital decline?
- Spouses who work different shifts but stay emotionally connected
- Spouses who share a home but have entirely separate routines, friends, and goals (Correct answer)
- Spouses who maintain independent hobbies while sharing weekend activities
- Spouses who disagree on vacation destinations
Correct answer: Spouses who share a home but have entirely separate routines, friends, and goals
Living parallel lives — sharing only logistics like a home address — indicates the marriage has functionally dissolved even if not legally.
Question 4: When a partner consistently minimizes the other's achievements or feelings, which destructive pattern is this?
- Healthy reality-checking between partners
- Contempt disguised as practical feedback (Correct answer)
- Honest communication about shared priorities
- Appropriate pushback during conflict
Correct answer: Contempt disguised as practical feedback
Minimizing a partner's feelings or wins is a subtle form of contempt that erodes the emotional foundation of a marriage.
Question 5: Which type of change in a spouse's phone behavior might signal secretive conduct related to divorce preparation?
- Upgrading to a newer smartphone model
- Setting new passcodes, deleting messages, and stepping away to take calls (Correct answer)
- Increasing social media use for professional networking
- Installing productivity apps
Correct answer: Setting new passcodes, deleting messages, and stepping away to take calls
Sudden secrecy around phone activity — new passwords, deleted messages, private calls — can indicate communication a spouse doesn't want discovered.
Question 6: Research by John Gottman found that which ratio of positive to negative interactions is necessary for a marriage to remain stable?
- 1:1 (equal positive and negative)
- 3:1 (three positives for every negative)
- 5:1 (five positives for every negative) (Correct answer)
- 10:1 (ten positives for every negative)
Correct answer: 5:1 (five positives for every negative)
Gottman's research found that stable marriages maintain at least a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions; falling below this predicts relationship failure.
Question 7: When one spouse expresses that they feel 'more like roommates than a couple,' this statement most directly signals what?
- A desire for a more structured household routine
- Loss of romantic and emotional intimacy in the marriage (Correct answer)
- Satisfaction with a low-conflict lifestyle
- A preference for independent living arrangements
Correct answer: Loss of romantic and emotional intimacy in the marriage
Describing the marriage as a roommate arrangement signals that romantic, emotional, and often physical intimacy has significantly deteriorated.
When couples in troubled marriages do seek help, which factor most predicts whether therapy will succeed?